nicole calder

a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...

i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...

i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...

love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...

one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...

comprehension is. our society focuses heavily on individuals being responsible for the situations they are in, yet they fail to consider...

a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...

a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

What is my coaching philosophy all about? The same thing that my life is all about: people. Specifically though, establishing connections...

What a time to be alive. We’re in the middle of something that has the potential to be a turning point in history. This is the first...

These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...

Sometimes it takes meeting someone to help you realise all the places in which you are stuck. At least that’s what happened with me....

Surprisingly, despite me having just moved back to Australia, this post does not pertain to distance, but to time and experience. Since...

How often have you been asked this seemingly simple question of, what do you want? Whether that’s been in the form of a profession, a...

"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...