nicole calder

i've been reflecting a little bit on partnerships and what love is / what you want / need from a partner. i think about my own...

there’s a beauty in music that cannot be shared through other forms of media. music is transformative; it takes you back to a moment in...

i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...

love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...

a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...

a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

loving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...

love is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...

on a daily basis i’m reminded of the pain that exists in this world. and it’s a pain that pains me. because often these people aren’t...

These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...

“You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...

"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...

In life we have two options: be an author, or be a victim. We can hold ourselves accountable, or we can be unaccountable. We can be the...

I’ve had a few very good conversations centred around this topic of late, many of which have been inspired by someone who lives and loves...

Last night I served the most beautiful woman. She was 93 years young and had a real zest for life. When I asked her what her secret is to...