nicole calder

i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...

Sometimes it takes meeting someone to help you realise all the places in which you are stuck. At least that’s what happened with me....

Do I like her? As a friend? As something more? Do I want to be her? Do I envy her? Do I like her style? Is she into women too? These are...

Heartbreak isn’t what you think It’s not an isolated event that only occurs at the termination of a relationship Heartbreak is prolonged...

We live in a technology-dominated society. The same technology that was once invented to make communication more accessible has been...

I have this phrase tattooed on me. Well, not tattooed, but I have it engraved on the dog tags that I wear all the time in remembrance of...

I’ve had a few very good conversations centred around this topic of late, many of which have been inspired by someone who lives and loves...

When asked who you are, how do you respond? How is it that you choose to define yourself? Many unconscious humans use labels to define...

This topic has been on my heart a lot since initiating this blog. I have frequently found myself wanting to write about my experiences,...

I was challenged the other week. Do I have a type? When people answer this question, they typically do so in a very surface-level and...

I felt seen last night. Understood too. Not on all levels, but on a level. The energy I exerted resonated with the table I was serving,...

To the woman who last had my heart, My life hasn’t made much sense without you. I feel as though I’m merely existing, not living. That’s...