nicole calderJun 112 minSOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGHa few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...
nicole calderNov 13, 20212 minA FRIEND FOR A LOVERi always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...
nicole calderSep 26, 20212 minRESPECT BOUNDARIESi've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...
nicole calderAug 15, 20212 minCHEATINGwhat does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...
nicole calderJul 29, 20212 minTHE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS METfor those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...
nicole calderJul 25, 20212 minHOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...
nicole calderMay 27, 20212 minTHE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVElove blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...
nicole calderMay 20, 20212 minTRY HARDER OR LEAVE?one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...
nicole calderApr 26, 20211 minWHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...
nicole calderFeb 20, 20212 minTRUST PATTERNSa few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...
nicole calderFeb 12, 20212 minCHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEARi've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...
nicole calderOct 16, 20202 minHOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...
nicole calderOct 12, 20202 minBREAK UPSi believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...
nicole calderSep 12, 20201 minLOVEloving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...
nicole calderSep 1, 20201 minTHE POWER OF LOVElove is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...
nicole calderJan 21, 201913 minGet raw, get realThese are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...
nicole calderSep 16, 20186 minFrom safety to love“You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...
nicole calderFeb 4, 20172 minbe not yourself"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...
nicole calderDec 11, 20162 minHeartbreakHeartbreak isn’t what you think It’s not an isolated event that only occurs at the termination of a relationship Heartbreak is prolonged...
nicole calderSep 3, 20165 minBe the author of your lifeIn life we have two options: be an author, or be a victim. We can hold ourselves accountable, or we can be unaccountable. We can be the...