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    SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH
    nicole calder
    • Jun 11
    • 2 min

    SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH

    a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...
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    A FRIEND FOR A LOVER
    nicole calder
    • Nov 13, 2021
    • 2 min

    A FRIEND FOR A LOVER

    i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...
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    RESPECT BOUNDARIES
    nicole calder
    • Sep 26, 2021
    • 2 min

    RESPECT BOUNDARIES

    i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...
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    CHEATING
    nicole calder
    • Aug 15, 2021
    • 2 min

    CHEATING

    what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...
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    THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET
    nicole calder
    • Jul 29, 2021
    • 2 min

    THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET

    for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...
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    HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?
    nicole calder
    • Jul 25, 2021
    • 2 min

    HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?

    is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...
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    THE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVE
    nicole calder
    • May 27, 2021
    • 2 min

    THE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVE

    love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...
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    TRY HARDER OR LEAVE?
    nicole calder
    • May 20, 2021
    • 2 min

    TRY HARDER OR LEAVE?

    one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...
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    WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?
    nicole calder
    • Apr 26, 2021
    • 1 min

    WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?

    a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...
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    TRUST PATTERNS
    nicole calder
    • Feb 20, 2021
    • 2 min

    TRUST PATTERNS

    a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...
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    CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR
    nicole calder
    • Feb 12, 2021
    • 2 min

    CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR

    i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...
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    HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?
    nicole calder
    • Oct 16, 2020
    • 2 min

    HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?

    we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...
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    BREAK UPS
    nicole calder
    • Oct 12, 2020
    • 2 min

    BREAK UPS

    i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...
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    LOVE
    nicole calder
    • Sep 12, 2020
    • 1 min

    LOVE

    loving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...
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    THE POWER OF LOVE
    nicole calder
    • Sep 1, 2020
    • 1 min

    THE POWER OF LOVE

    love is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...
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    Get raw, get real
    nicole calder
    • Jan 21, 2019
    • 13 min

    Get raw, get real

    These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...
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    From safety to love
    nicole calder
    • Sep 16, 2018
    • 6 min

    From safety to love

    “You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...
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    be not yourself
    nicole calder
    • Feb 4, 2017
    • 2 min

    be not yourself

    "be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...
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    Heartbreak
    nicole calder
    • Dec 11, 2016
    • 2 min

    Heartbreak

    Heartbreak isn’t what you think It’s not an isolated event that only occurs at the termination of a relationship Heartbreak is prolonged...
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    Be the author of your life
    nicole calder
    • Sep 3, 2016
    • 5 min

    Be the author of your life

    In life we have two options: be an author, or be a victim. We can hold ourselves accountable, or we can be unaccountable. We can be the...
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