WHAT IS LOVE?
i've been reflecting a little bit on partnerships and what love is / what you want / need from a partner. i think about my own...
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nicole calder
- Aug 26
- 2 min
THE POWER IN MUSIC
there’s a beauty in music that cannot be shared through other forms of media. music is transformative; it takes you back to a moment in...
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nicole calder
- Jun 12
- 2 min
SOMETIMES A WILLINGNESS IS NOT ENOUGH
a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...
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nicole calder
- Nov 14, 2021
- 2 min
A FRIEND FOR A LOVER
i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...
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nicole calder
- Sep 27, 2021
- 2 min
RESPECT BOUNDARIES
i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...
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nicole calder
- Aug 16, 2021
- 2 min
CHEATING
what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...
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nicole calder
- Jul 30, 2021
- 2 min
THE IMPORTANCE OF GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET
for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...
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nicole calder
- Jul 26, 2021
- 2 min
HOW DO YOU END A RELATIONSHIP?
is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...
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nicole calder
- May 28, 2021
- 2 min
THE BEAUTY OF PERSPECTIVE
love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...
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nicole calder
- May 21, 2021
- 2 min
TRY HARDER OR LEAVE?
one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...
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nicole calder
- Apr 27, 2021
- 1 min
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INGREDIENT IN ANY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP?
a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...
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nicole calder
- Feb 21, 2021
- 2 min
TRUST PATTERNS
a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...
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nicole calder
- Feb 13, 2021
- 2 min
CHOOSE LOVE, NOT FEAR
i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...
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nicole calder
- Oct 17, 2020
- 2 min
HOW DO YOU LET GO OF SOMEONE?
we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...
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nicole calder
- Oct 13, 2020
- 2 min
BREAK UPS
i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...
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nicole calder
- Sep 13, 2020
- 1 min
LOVE
loving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...
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nicole calder
- Sep 2, 2020
- 1 min
THE POWER OF LOVE
love is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...
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nicole calder
- Jan 22, 2019
- 13 min
Get raw, get real
These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...
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nicole calder
- Sep 17, 2018
- 6 min
From safety to love
“You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...
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nicole calder
- Feb 5, 2017
- 2 min
be not yourself
"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...
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