nicole calder

a few weeks ago, a situation came up between my partner and me. my partner was trying to explain her perspective and her reasoning, but...

i always thought that to be with someone there had to be an initial spark. an initial attraction. an initial desire. my current...

i've been reflecting recently on some of my behaviour with specific regards to relationships, new and old. and i've been struggling to...

what does it mean to ‘cheat on someone’? is it considered cheating to be attracted to someone else? to feel connected to someone else? to...

for those of you who know me, you'll know that maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of my favourite pyramids to reference. i spent many...

is there ever a way for a relationship to end amicably? yes. but how you behave often determines how that person behaves. so how do you...

love blinds us. when we're with someone, we're so caught up in ‘making it work' we don't stop to consider whether this is actually the...

one of the hardest questions to ask yourself is do i try harder or do i leave? and often that question isn't as straightforward as it...

a willingness and commitment to resolving issues. what i’m learning is that relationships are less about finding the perfect partner -...

a few years ago, i wrote the following quote: "give me your words and i'll give you nothing. give me your actions and i'll give you my...

i've never understood why we complicate love and relationships. if you like someone and they like you, why then would you not want to be...

we as humans like to attach to people and to things. attachment gives us a sense of security, a sense of purpose, a sense of control. but...

i believe break ups are one of the hardest things people go through in their lives. it might seem trivial, given how commonplace they...

loving someone isn’t about saving them. it’s not about changing their circumstances. it’s not about changing who they are or how they...

love is a word we often throw around without ever thinking too much about what it really means. so what does it mean? and what can loving...

These are unedited excerpts from my journal. Some names have been altered to respect the privacy of the individuals mentioned. 17th...

“You can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.” How often have you heard this phrase throughout your life? And do you really...

"be yourself" they say but how can you? in a world that wants you to be everything but yourself a world that is fundamentally superficial...

Heartbreak isn’t what you think It’s not an isolated event that only occurs at the termination of a relationship Heartbreak is prolonged...

In life we have two options: be an author, or be a victim. We can hold ourselves accountable, or we can be unaccountable. We can be the...